We all have an internal map that guides our behavior. Our internal map, or paradigm, is developed over the course of our lifetime. Our paradigm influences our choices and reactions to circumstances and events we experience on a daily basis.
Becoming aware that we operate from our paradigm is a huge step in self-understanding.
Why does it feel like our lives are becoming busier? We’re managing issues and maintaining relationships at work. We’re solving problems and nurturing our personal relationships at home. We try to be supportive, and at times we want to exceed the expectations of those we love.
1. Make a Plan. Starting out before knowing where you’re going usually gets you. nowhere. Take the time to journal - even if it’s just once a month and review those notes as you plan for the month ahead…
To change your behavior you have to become aware of your negative patterns and what rewards you may be getting from them. Once you’re aware, you can set up strategies to facilitate new behaviors to replace the old patterns. Participating in group seminars on Emotional Intelligence can provide the tools for rapid and lasting paradigm shifts.
To play this life well we all need to practice, whether we thing other things are more important or not. We need to practice patience, and listening, we need to practice empathy and understanding differing approaches and viewpoints. We need to practice practicing!
What do you do when you find yourself cornered by an energy Vampire? Garlic repels everyone, even the people you like and to be frank, who wouldn’t a stake through the heart kill… That solution is inadvisable at best. Being subjected to the routine energy sucking behavior of an energy vampire is, well, draining!
Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.
Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking.
Here are 15 of the characteristics people with high EQ possess:
Emotional Intelligence is not about sitting in a lotus position or hugging everyone you meet. Really emotionally intelligent leaders are balanced, gracious and dynamic. They share their passion, and support those around them. Fostering good EQ is crucial for team success… and it doesn’t hurt in 1:1 relationships either! Here are 6 characteristics emotionally intelligent leaders possess...
Over time, listening openly and attentively to others helps to cultivate trust. Reflect on your experiences: The more connected you feel to someone, the more you tend to trust that person, and the easier it becomes to talk. This contributes to a sense of psychological safety, which according to a Google study is the key to successful teams. The ability to take risks and speak up can be the difference between thwarting a mistake or learning from one. In the end, everyone benefits.