Improving Objectivity

Improving Objectivity

When we approach an emotionally charged subject matter, objectivity can be elusive. By balancing our emotional vulnerabilities with a healthy dose of objectivity, we can make better decisions based on the merits of the subject at hand. Using objectivity allows us to look at a problem from a macro point of view.

By definition, objectivity is the lack of bias, judgment or prejudice. We expect judges to listen to our stories objectively prior to rendering a decision. We expect journalists to present facts objectively so we can form our own opinion of the story. In essence, objectivity and credibility are indelibly linked.

Embracing Change

Embracing Change

Our changing culture is introducing new ideas and new ways of doing things that challenge our preconceived impressions about the way things are, including our versions of Our Stories. Peek observed, “Our Stories weigh a ton.” They make us less adaptable to a changing world.

Letting go of burdens from our past is an effective step toward embracing change. Instead of focusing on Our Story, we should be open to the future as a collection of ideas. We can view ourselves as everchanging, maturing individuals whose perceptions are in continual development.

Finding Meaning

Finding Meaning

By almost any measure, our standard of living is higher than most places on earth, yet our material success often leaves us feeling more alone and unsatisfied, in some cases even clinically depressed. Smith declares that “this despair is not a lack of happiness. It’s a lack of something else, it’s a lack of having meaning in life.” 

Observing Ourselves

Observing Ourselves

“When we focus our attention on ourselves, we evaluate and compare our current behavior to our internal standards and values. We become self-conscious as objective evaluators of ourselves.”- Shelley Duval, Robert Wicklund

 One of the first steps in developing our emotional intelligence is recognizing our emotions, and the effects they have on others. We can and should make an effort to objectively recognize our emotions so we can monitor and modify how we behave in particular situations. But that is easier said than done.

Our Paradigm Map

Our Paradigm Map

We all have an internal map that guides our behavior. Our internal map, or paradigm, is developed over the course of our lifetime. Our paradigm influences our choices and reactions to circumstances and events we experience on a daily basis.

Becoming aware that we operate from our paradigm is a huge step in self-understanding.

15 Signs You Are Emotionally Intelligent

15 Signs You Are Emotionally Intelligent

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking.

Here are 15 of the characteristics people with high EQ possess:

6 Ways to Spot an Emotionally Intelligent Leader

6 Ways to Spot an Emotionally Intelligent Leader

Emotional Intelligence is not about sitting in a lotus position or hugging everyone you meet.  Really emotionally intelligent leaders are balanced, gracious and dynamic.  They share their passion, and support those around them.  Fostering good EQ is crucial for team success… and it doesn’t hurt in 1:1 relationships either!  Here are 6 characteristics emotionally intelligent leaders possess...

In a Difficult Conversation, Listen More Than You Talk

In a Difficult Conversation, Listen More Than You Talk

Over time, listening openly and attentively to others helps to cultivate trust. Reflect on your experiences: The more connected you feel to someone, the more you tend to trust that person, and the easier it becomes to talk. This contributes to a sense of psychological safety, which according to a Google study is the key to successful teams. The ability to take risks and speak up can be the difference between thwarting a mistake or learning from one. In the end, everyone benefits.

Six Core Benefits of Personal Development

Six Core Benefits of  Personal Development

Personal development is about investing in yourself so that you can manage yourself effectively regardless of what life might bring your way. 

Personal development allows you to be proactive. Rather than wait for good things to happen, you get out there and make them happen. 

You may not always achieve your objective, but you will experience a richer and more rewarding life when you commit to pursuing your own objectives. Making that commitment to personal development is the first step on the path to personal fulfillment.